A few weeks ago I was drinking my morning coffee with the usual splash of Christmas cheer (I use peppermint mocha creamer in my home brew year-round so this whole ‘plain red cup’ controversy is of zero interest to me) when some 'Elf on the Shelf' ideas popped up on Facebook. I have been looking forward to the year we could start this fun tradition in our home and since I think we are finally there, I eagerly printed out a calendar and started jotting down ideas...even though it was mid-October. After looking at hundred of ideas, I had a flashback to my first year as a teacher when I realized the power of the TEACHABLE MOMENT!!!
The ‘teachable moment’ is the term used in the teaching biz to help you keep your cool when you’re in the middle of a really great lesson about the digestive system and a student raises their hand, or maybe just shouts out, “Why do scientists say that Pluto isn’t a planet? My uncle told me it’s a planet.” The ‘teachable moment’ reminds you that those little sponge-brains are always taking in new information and quite often it is when you least expect it! So even though half of the students stopped learning about digestion way back when you said the word “bolus”, now ALL of the students are going to hear your answer to the Pluto question. After all, Pluto is now called a ‘small body’ and when you introduced the digestive system you did say something about ‘body systems’ so somehow, someway you HAVE to connect the dots between the two topics even though it isn’t on your lesson plan or unit map or whatever the term is these days. You have their undivided attention, so MAKE IT MATTER!
As I filled up my calendar with cute elf ideas, I realized that this could be a teachable moment, or rather a teachable month! I have 25 days to be an intentional parent and spread KINDNESS. As I continued to do more research, I realized that this is not my original idea:( There are actually many families and classrooms who have Kindness Elves that visit during the holidays and encourage kindness.
So this is a compilation of ideas for your family to use this year whether your elf sits on a shelf, is kind, or is actually a Christmas Angel. I think we can all agree that KINDNESS is universal! Some of these ideas are borrowed, some are modified, and a few are original...or so I think. I’ve also tried to use these activities to encourage family time, learning, creativity, leadership and giving to others...because these are all great qualities of a kind kid. I’d love to hear your ideas too...you could be my first comment! Kits (with most of the supplies you see here) and downloads (of the daily elf messages and such) are available in my Etsy shop if you’re interested in saving a little time:)
1.) Instead of using intimidation to get kids to be kind this month with the threat of Santa's naughty/nice list, use your elf to recognize all of the good things they've done this year! I learned very early on in my career as a teacher that recognition is much more powerful than intimidation:)
2.) Help kids brainstorm what it really means to be kind with a Christmas Kindness word search. (Make your own here at Discovery Education )
Help me find all of the words that relate to KINDNESS in this puzzle...please:) |
3.) Help kids get focused on kindness by having them look for other people who are doing nice things. Encourage them to recognize the act of kindness with a sticker or positive words.
Be on the lookout for KINDNESS today! If you spot a friend or family member being extra nice, give them a sticker:) |
4.) A little bit of change can go a long way...pun intended! Use this idea to encourage long-term goals as well as giving to others.
Feed my pet pig with your spare CHANGE. When he gets full, donate the money to a local charity, church, or friend in need:) |
5.) Elves love sticky hands! Use this as a visual reminder that it is important to help each other out or ‘lend a hand’.
6.) Use this fun idea to remind kind kids to be intentional about showing or telling family members that they are loved.
I mustache you a question, have you said "I love you" to someone today? Look for special ways to show or tell your family members that you love them today. |
7.) Sometimes saying "I'm sorry" can become very empty. By encouraging your child to help find a way to fix the problem, you can promote genuine kindness & thinking about the needs of others.
Oops! Sometimes accidents happen. If you make a mistake today remember to say "I'm sorry!" and try to find a way to help fix it. |
8.) A hug is something you give and receive! Encourage kind kids to spread kindness through hugs today.
Happy Hug Day! A hug is a way to show someone that you care about them. Give lots of hugs today. Here are some special elf hugs to get the sweetness started. |
9.) Encourage kind kids to do their best by using your elf as an example. You know what they say, monkey see monkey do!
Remember to give EVERYTHING your very best effort today:) |
10.) Everyone loves a good game of hide and seek! Use this idea to encourage sharing with others.
I hid 6 candy canes in the kitchen, can you find all of them? Make sure to share them with your friends and neighbors today:) |
11.) I love this classic elf on the beach scene. He just looks so uncomfortably cute sitting there in his stocking cap. Use this as a way to encourage kind kids to try something new and make new friends.
Today is a great day to try something new! See, I'm trying sand instead of snow. Try to make a new friend while you're at it:) |
12.) Miniature Christmas lights! I couldn't help myself. Another adorable way to encourage kind kids to help others.
Help a friend day! Look for ways to hep your friends today. Say, could you please help me finish decorating my Christmas tree? |
13.) It's important to say thank you! Sometimes we think it but we forget to say it. Use your elf to remind kind kids to say thank you.
Thank you for being my friend! Decorate these cards and write a note inside to say "thank you" to someone who has done something nice for you:) |
15.) As Christmas gets closer, even kind kids are thinking about all the presents they hope to get. Use this idea to encourage them to give the gift of kind words to other people.
10 more days until Christmas!!! Give at least 10 compliments today. Here are some ideas "You're a great friend/mom/dad!", "You're really good at___!" & "I really enjoy doing ___with you!" |
16.) Use this idea to encourage kind kids to focus on giving rather then receiving. Suggested ideas: local Angel Tree, Toys for Tots, baking cookies for a neighbor, etc.
The gift of GIVING is a wonderful BLESSING! I know you know someone who needs a special gift this year:) |
17.) Encourage kind kids to be leaders by inviting other kids to play with them. Help them out by giving them a new game that requires 2 or more people to play.
Invite someone new to play with you today:) |
18.) Smile...enough said:)
19.) Instead of simply suggesting a family movie night, use this idea to encourage kind kids to plan the movie night for their family. Include tickets so they can decorate them (creativity) and formally invite everyone to the movie (leadership). Help them plan what time the movie should start & what to have for snack during the movie (needs of others). Options: Redbox, Netflix, ABC Family's 25 days of Christmas.
Smile...you're special:) Smile at people today and remind them that they are special too! |
20.) Encourage kind kids to help out around the house...even if they aren’t responsible for the mess.
5 more days until Christmas! Let's see if you can pick up 5 things around the house today...even if they aren't yours:) |
21.) A kind kid thinks about the needs of others. Not just those they can see, but those that live very far away. Encourage your kids to learn about how Christmas is celebrated in other countries. Suggestion: Consider using this as an opportunity to begin sponsoring a child in need through Compassion International, Save the Children or World Vision.
22.) I just couldn't pass up these high-five sticky notes. Spread double the kindness with the visual image of a high-five along with the positive message that kind kids write on the sticky note.
Words are powerful! Write positive messages on these high-fives and hide them around your neighborhood. Here are a few ideas to get your started: "You're important!" & "You are loved!" |
23.) This idea is a great way to get kind kids thinking about others. They will probably want to keep the special money but giving it away opens up an opportunity to discuss the fact that sometimes others may need something more than we do. (Tutorial: How to fold dollar bill into a heart.)
Pay it forward! Give this special money to someone you thing might need it. |
24.) Use this idea to focus on the true meaning of Christmas. Pose the elf with your family's favorite holiday book and a few other toys to encourage kind kids to share the gift of reading with others. Our current favorite is What is Christmas? by Michelle Medlock Adams. For an older/larger crowd, read the Christmas story from the Bible while kids dress in costume and act it out (this is one of my favorite childhood memories!)
This is one of my favorite books! I love reading but my favorite thing about a good book is SHARING it with others. Read a book with someone today:) |
25.) Most families have their elf/angel depart on Christmas Eve. One final play on words to remind your kids to ‘sprinkle kindness everywhere’. Suggestions: If your family leaves milk & cookies out for Santa, you can spread sprinkles on the cookie plate and trace the word ‘BYE” in the sprinkles. You could also use sprinkles to make an elf angel (like a snow angel) or you could sprinkle them on a special Christmas morning breakfast. Some families also bake a birthday cake for Jesus so it would be fun to to leave the sprinkles out next to the cake supplies and use them to decorate the birthday cake:) Be creative & Have Fun! Merry Christmas!